Marriage & Sexual desire

Why we get married ?? is it for satisfying our sexual desires ??? is it just a tradition we follow ??? if God made a lot of limitations & warning on our sexual desires why did he made it combined with all that pleasure it give ????

for me & according to my Islamic believes
i think Marriage & having sex are Totally separated Desires that God created inside us & they are not related to each other, but one may lead to the other , Just like eating & drinking they are totally different desires but one may lead to the other.

a man can have a desire towards a girl but he never want to marry her.

in west we find that they can freely have sex & although they " guy and girl" already live together in the same place & having totally shared life But u find them thinking about Marriage !!!!

so its not about Sexual stuff or even living together or any of this " ITS ABOUT DESIRE INSIDE US " to get married & we want to satisfy it in spite of all its hard responsibilities !!!!!!

so WHY ,Allah made these two desires inside us ???

lets first talk about Marriage:

" The goal of marriage is to create tenderness between two individuals and satisfy the very basic human need for companionship
" Allah wants us to have families " good & tight families " who satisfy the cause of Creation "Which is to make the earth better place & to be Allah's followers " khalyfa" on it & to have that kind of ppl "a productive member of society " u should have good family to raise them on that & this family wont be created if we dont have MARRIAGE DESIRE.

so Now why Sex& Sexual pleasure ?? having Children & raising them is soo hard & tired preocess for both parents so Allah made them a result of so pleasent & pleasurable process & he made it a seriuos &insistent desire inside us.

Finally Why that restrictions about the sexual desire " if the point is just related to children & having them so i can have many sextual relations & hv more children & stuff " No the restriction have many sides beside being pure, to respect our bodies & Some of the negative results of sex outside of marriage like the potential for unwanted pregnancies, transmission of sexually transmitted diseases, disruption of the family and marriage (in cases of adultery)

BUT the most important is emotional and psychological difficulties resulting from the lack of commitment associated with most relationships outside of marriage " which we cant build AFAMILY ON " . there is a very important point which is OUR Feelings as we have a very important realted desires which are " SAFITY , STABILITY & LOVE " :)

"Do you know who is the one who is bankrupt ?

Narrated from Abu Hurayrah that the Messenger of Allah(saw) said:

"Do you know who is the one who is bankrupt?" They said, "The bankrupt is the one who has no money and no possessions." He said, "Among my ummah, the one who is bankrupt is the one who will come on the Day of Resurrection with prayer and fasting and zakah (to his credit), but he will come having insulted this one, slandered that one, consumed the wealth of this one and shed the blood of that one, and beaten that one. So they will all be given some of his hasanaat, and when his hasanaat run out, before judgement is passed, some of their sins will be taken and cast onto him, then he will be cast into the Fire." {Muslim}

did u feel that before

did u feel that b4

u cant walk
u cant talk
u cant breath
u cant think
ur heart is not there anymore
while ur mind is crowded till it cant work
ur soul in sorrow
& while ur feeling in sore

u r not a life
u r not Dead
but u r worse

u r not even is or are
u r nothinng

u feel not afraid from death
bcoz in life there things much worse

people

i got new lesson today,

people are people wherever & whenever they are, don't expect a lot from them because they are just people , that's why Allah has loads of Mercy & Forgiveness upon them ,simply because he created them & he knows they are just ppl & what ppl mean.

me too, i am just one of those ppl but i try.

just thought

its amazing haw our direction or way in life can change suddenly and seriously to totally different direction by facing one situation, hearing one sentence or meeting one person.

i guess that's what is called
fate

Star :)

i had star it was so far but though it used 2 be my guide in such long dark night now i miss it & wish f i holded it so tight i miss my star& its light so plz my star come& give me back my life bright

I met in the street a very poor young man who was in love. His hat was old, his coat worn, his cloak was out at the elbows, the water passed through his shoes -- and the stars through his soul.
Victor Hugo

Woman was taken out of a man; not out of his head to top him,nor out of his feet to be trampled underfoot; but out of his side to be equal to him,under his arm to be protected and near his heart to be loved...


If I never met you,I wouldn't like you....If I didn't like you,I wouldn't love you...If I didn't love you,I wouldn't miss you...But I DID,I DO,and I WILL!

Love is a friendship set to music.
E. Joseph Cossman

Love is an irresistible desire to be irresistibly desired.
Robert Frost

At the touch of love everyone becomes a poet.
Plato